“And if we know that he hears us–whatever we ask–we know that we have what we asked of him.” – 1 John 5:15

The day my prayers were answered, my dreams became reality.

Hi, Everyone!

First of all, Happy New Year! I have been gone for some time now, but I want to get back in the habit of blogging. I am currently in the process of changing the name from Polished Melanin to Gracefully Dom.

Blogging is therapy for me and I want to be able to share things, events, thoughts and moments with people. Life is about sharing. Not always in the material sense, but with your words and gestures as well. You never know how words help people. Words can tear a person down and in the same breath lift them up. This year, I made a promise to myself that I will use my words to lift people and use the gift that God has given to help others in need. Whether that need be material, emotional, through support, spiritually, etc.


As you all know I was a graduate student working on my master’s degree in School Counseling.

Two words: I Graduated!

…And I got a job at the level I wanted! I asked, and it was given. God is good.


He has blessed me with such a great school and staff. I couldn’t have asked for a better position.

I remember my old pastor saying, “When God blesses you, it can be overwhelming because he will bless you abundantly. (2 Corinthians 9:8). He also wants to make sure that when he blesses you, you are able to handle it.” I can honestly say that in the beginning, I was not as optimistic about graduation. I feared going back to the old job that I currently had because deep down, it was not a place that I felt was fit for me. I didn’t feel comfortable, confident, appreciated, welcome and the environment was stressful.

How can a person who has worked so hard and gotten so far, think so negatively about their future? This was a question that people close to me asked and often times I asked myself the same thing. “Oh, ye of little faith, why are you so afraid?” (Matthew 8:26) It seemed as if everyone around me were reaping the harvest of their season and I was working so hard, but I wasn’t getting anything. Why?

…Because it wasn’t my time. This was the day that I started to trust God a little more. See, in order for us to receive what is meant for us, we have to also be happy for others and accept that maybe it is not our time. Be patient, even though it is hard to do. Maybe there is more work for you to do. What can you improve on? Why are you asking for these things? The hardest question is… Do you need them, or do you just want it because? I had to ask myself these very questions and sadly to say, some of the things that I asked God for was because of others and not because I needed it. I wanted to “show people out and show them what I have” and honestly that is the stupidest reason to ask for anything. (Yes, it’s stupid and I can say that about myself).

When I figured out my true purpose in life and as I reflected on the road that led me here, life began. My perspective on life changed, my words changed, my thought process changed, how I react to certain things changed, how I interact with others changed and so forth. I started to then ask God “What is it that you need from me? Whatever it is, show me and lead me there, so that I can do your work and do well in life.” Then I started working on myself and things started to change. My prayers were more meaningful and specific. That’s when I asked God to give me a better perspective, change my current circle of people, help me be a better Christian, friend, spouse, and parent, and let all of my work pay off to better the lives of others. Lastly, I asked him for a new job before graduation in a high school.

…He gave me the job first. He is still showing me ways to improve with the other things that I asked for. It’s overwhelming but I am grateful for it.

I say all of these things to say, your time is coming. Be patient and make your prayers more specific. It may not happen right away but if you ask God to help you navigate through life and clear the path to it, he will.

I hope that this message helped someone.

Love Always,


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