“Being proud of who you are, where you come from, what you’ve been through and who you’ve become. Fully accepting the journey that shaped you… Being resilient and strong. #Free DOM”
Guys! It’s been a lonnnnng time! I have a good reason though. Well, maybe not. Today, I decided that I would get back to my second love, which is writing down my thoughts and experiences. Oh and bye English teachers. School is over 🙂
My contract has been renewed for the 18-19 school year. No more end-of-school-year hire, up-in-the-air decision of if I’m going to keep my job or not. God is good. I have my first-hand experience down as a high school counselor! There were challenges along the way (ones that required counting to ten), but none of them took away the happiness I receive from working with my students.
Since I’m on this soapbox, I thought I’d share.
I never thought that little ole’ strong and ambitious me would become uncomfortable and stripped of my dignity. However, it happened. When you’re young, new and sometimes different from the majority, people use it as an opportunity for your demise. Well, demise is a little extreme but in some moments, I felt that way. When you work hard to maximize your potential and do what is in the best interest of others, people notice. People either notice your passion and they gravitate towards you or try to undermine it. I had both experiences. This is when the good ole, self-talk came into play during my end-of-year reflection.
It went something like this:
Strong/Ambitious self: Do you know who you are?
Doubtful self: Yes, Of course, I do!
Strong/Ambitious self: Well I can’t tell. I can’t believe that you worked so hard to get here, only to allow insecure people or experiences of trial and error to strip you of your dignity. You should know better. Trial and error is part of any new journey and it is necessary for success. Insecure people are everywhere but it’s up to you to deal with these things appropriately within yourself.
Doubtful self: But… I am human though. I react, I feel.
Strong/Ambitious self: You are also smart and resilient!
I wasn’t actually talking to myself but I did think about these things during my end-of-year reflection. During internal conflicts, I always think of a positive quote or something funny to keep me grounded.
Nikki Giovanni once said:
“Deal with yourself as an individual, worthy of respect and make everyone else deal with you the same way.”
Then I realized… Girl, You’ve got this!
THAT PART! It’s ok to give yourself a pep talk often. Yass!
It’s healthy and necessary to keep pushing when things get you down. Know yourself. #ThatIsAll
The New Counselor on the Block…
CHS… the standard for educational excellence where all are known, valued, and inspired.
I work for one of the best leaders a school could have and some of the best counseling staff I could ask for. I thank God for that.
I want every student to know that it doesn’t matter what life is like for them at the moment, doesn’t matter where they come from, it’s about where they’re going.
REP Your Journey!
I want each student to know that I will do my very best to support them and be a great influence.
Guess what else?
We bought a house! Out here livin!
After a long and stressful journey, God came through again. He connected me with some great people and we bought our first home. I want to give a personal, yet heartfelt shout out to Mr. John Tuggle at Envoy Mortgage for hanging in there with the moody, frustrated, Type-A, call you a hundred times and get mad, then apologize… yep that was me. He worked with us and kept his word. I appreciate his good customer service and patience with me. Thanks to my homeowner friends that gave me such great advice. Also, thanks to my realtor Dawn Jenkins! Love her. They made this possible for my family. #Elated with life.
Here is our cute 4 BR, old-school, remodeled home.
Some of my Pinterest projects (decorating, wall colors, etc.)
So, what am I’m doing now? Enjoying my new home, adjusting to my two months off.
I planted a rose-bush! To the right of that is a DIY flowerbed I am going to build. I’m feeling like full grown, accomplished adult. Never thought I’d be here, but I am. #GodsPlan
Life begins when you stop limiting yourself.